Troubled Marriages

Is your marriage is in trouble? We believe we have help for you. In this section are a variety of helpful ideas and programs. Please look them over! If you do nothing, you can’t expect things to change.

Without hope?

Marriage in crisis, but you don’t know where to turn?

 We offer free couple-to-couple mentoring services.

  • Four out of five troubled marriages have been restored with trained “back-from-the-brink couples” (whose own marriages once nearly failed) who came alongside a couple in need. A couple that was nearly driven apart by adultery – but survived, has something to say to a couple in crisis regarding infidelity. The reconciled couple can say, “We know adultery breaks trust. We’ve been there, done that, but trust can be restored. Let us tell you our story, and let us give you hope for your marriage.” These wounded healers have a credibility that pastors and counselors do not have. We have been providing these mentor services for over 11 years and have a great rate of success. There are no fees for this service, although we do urge you to respond with a gift to the ministry after your marriage has been restored.
  •  Contact us for additional information.
  • Click here to view a video of this ministry.
  • Want help, but your partner won’t come with you?

For marriages with moderate issues where neither partner is considering divorce – We recommend our full-day marriage enrichment seminar known as RINGS, which stands for Real Intimacy and Growth Skills.

For couples who have already separated or even divorced

  • We recommend that you enter one of the Divorce Support Groups ( held  in Frederick County. These groups use video presentation and small group discussion to overcome the problems you are experiencing, such as anger, loneliness, depression, new relationships, finances, and many more.

Here’s some great reading that may also help you:

  • The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage by Michele Weiner-Davis. If you are thinking of divorce–stop. Put the process on hold and read Michele’s book. It will give you both the hope and the tools that you can use to not only save your marriage, but to have a great love relationship over a lifetime.” interested in taking any steps. You can change the character of your marriage by changing yourself.
  • A version of this book targeted at women, also by Michele Weiner-Davis, is titled Getting Through To the Man You Love: The No-Nonsense, No-Nagging Guide for Women. This book is particularly helpful to women, who file two-thirds of all divorces. Michelle tells women how to take the initiative to end this stalemate. It empowers women to be marriage healers rather than marriage destroyers.
  • The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce by Dr. Judith Wallerstein is a must read for couples with children. In following 100 children of divorce for 25 years, she discovered most of these children grew up in families “where they experienced multiple divorces and remarriages of one or both parents”, plus “many cohabitations and brief love affairs” with cataclysmic consequences. Children sadly concluded that ties between men and women “can break capriciously without warning”, which gives them no confidence in building relationships with the opposite sex.
  • If adultery has been part of your marriage, Dr. Stephen Judah has written an important book, Staying Together: When an Affair Pulls You Apart. When a marriage is threatened by infidelity, all parties involved can become desperate. We’re tempted to look out only for ourselves, and the marital relationship is left hanging on for dear life. Judah explores both the phenomenon of infidelity, considering both the push of marital discord and the pull of sexual temptation. With a clear and helpful analysis of the relational science behind infidelity, he delivers a tested way back toward a meaningful marriage.
  • For the good news about marriage and its importance to every heterosexual person, we strongly recommend A Case for Marriage by Dr. Linda Waite of the University of Chicago and Maggie Gallagher, a syndicated columnist. It proves conclusively that those who are married are far happier, healthier, wealthier and live far longer than those who are alone. If you have any doubt about the value of fighting for your marriage, this book is a must-read. It can be found in any good bookstore.
  • For the person in a step family or with children from a previous marriage read Willing To Try Again by Dick Dunn.

Regardless of which of the above actions you take, we urge you to take action.
Also visit our Resources page for additional help.