Hi Jim & Sue (mentor couple),
I just wanted to touch base with you quickly as we hadn’t spoken since you had Bev and me over. I am pleased to tell you that things are going very well for us now! This past Saturday was our anniversary, and one of the things we did to celebrate was to film a “couch interview” of ourselves, just talking about where we are in our marriage and what our hopes and dreams are for the future. Our intention is to do this every year and thereby create a documentary of our life together that we (and our heirs) can one day look back upon. We had a really great time doing it and one of the things Bev said is that this was one of the best anniversaries we’ve ever had, simply because of where we are in our relationship! (Ironically, other than buying the fixin’s for a delicious surf and turf meal, we didn’t spend a dime but instead shipped the kids off to friends and enjoyed a quiet weekend at home, not even leaving the property until church on Sunday morning!)
So, how did that turnaround happen so quickly? Well, not accidentally I assure you! There are a number of things we’ve changed since we met. We’ve moved the master bedroom into the basement, so now when we get up early to have our devotion time early in the morning, it allows us to connect without fear of waking the kids. Having time to talk and pray together (yes, I’ve made a concerted effort to lead us in that area) to begin our day has done amazing things for our connectedness. Gee, who would’ve thought, huh? J
Another great habit we’re forming is having family devotion time every night. We just take a verse or two of Scripture and talk about it as a family. Our three year old doesn’t really participate, but he’s in the room playing quietly, and I’m certain he will join in when he is developmentally able. This has done wondrous things for the spiritual growth of our family, and it feels great to be taking on the God-ordained role of spiritual leader of my household. (I’m pretty sure it turns Bev on as well!)
Other than that, I am making the effort to let Bev know how cherished she is, by both me and God. I’m consciously dying to self and engaging more in the family, even when I’m tired or hungry. I’m even flirting with my bride!
Marriage isn’t complicated; it’s just hard to do well consistently! So, thank you for your mentorship and your prayers. I’m not naïve enough to tell you we’re out of the woods and won’t call on you again, but I did want to let you know how things are going right now. Thanks for listening (then and now), for encouraging, and for holding us accountable. You are a blessing.